BEFORE YOU KEEP SCROLLING….
PAUSE.
Take one deep breath. Put your phone down for one second. And ask yourself, “How am I really doing?”
No pretending. No performing. No “I’m fine.”
Just take this small moment for you before you begin.
Hey Girl Hey!
When was the last time you actually sat with yourself?
Not to make a to-do list.
Not to figure out what everybody else needs.
Not to replay the conversation you wish you had differently.
Not to think about what you should be doing.
Just… you.
Because sometimes the reason you feel disconnected, overwhelmed, stuck, or unsure of yourself isn’t because you don’t know what to do next.
Sometimes, you simply haven’t given yourself enough space to hear what you are saying.
Journaling gives you that space.
These three prompts aren’t about writing the “right” answer. They’re about getting honest with yourself, noticing what you’ve been carrying, and beginning to reconnect with the woman underneath the noise.
Grab your journal. Take a deep breath.
And let’s talk to YOU.
WHERE HAVE I BEEN ABANDONING MYSELF?
Take a moment and think about the areas of your life where you’ve been putting yourself last.
Maybe you’ve been saying yes when you really mean no.
Maybe you’re exhausted but keep pushing.
Maybe you’ve been accepting things that don’t feel good because you don’t want to disappoint anyone.
Maybe you’ve been so busy taking care of everyone else that you haven’t checked in with yourself.
Maybe you’ve been ignoring what you need because somebody else’s needs always seem more important.
Journal:
Where in my life am I currently choosing everyone else’s comfort, expectations, or needs over my own?
Then ask yourself:
- What am I tolerating that I don’t actually want?
- Where am I afraid to speak up?
- What do I need that I haven’t allowed myself to ask for?
- What would change if I believed my needs mattered too?
- What is one small way I can choose myself this week?
YOUR REMINDER:
Choosing yourself doesn’t make you selfish.
Having boundaries doesn’t make you difficult.
Resting doesn’t make you lazy.
Needing support doesn’t make you weak.
You are allowed to take care of you, too.
WHAT DOES MY INNER VOICE SOUND LIKE?
You hear your own voice more than anyone else does.
So what is that voice telling you?
When you make a mistake, what do you say to yourself?
When you look in the mirror, what do you notice first?
When something doesn’t work out, what story do you tell yourself?
When you’re comparing yourself to someone else, what are you saying in your head?
Now write down the five thoughts you have most often about yourself.
Don’t edit them.
Don’t make them prettier.
Just tell the truth.
Then ask yourself:
Would I speak to someone I love the way I speak to myself?
If the answer is no, choose one thought and rewrite it.
For example:
“I’m so behind in life.”
becomes
“My life does not have to happen on someone else’s timeline.”
Or:
“I’m not good enough.”
becomes
“I am learning, growing, and becoming. I do not have to be perfect to be worthy.”
YOUR REMINDER:
Self-love isn’t pretending everything is perfect.
It’s learning to become a safer, kinder, more honest voice in your own head.
The voice you hear the most is your own. Make sure she knows how to love you.
WHO AM I BECOMING?
Sometimes we spend so much time trying to fix who we are that we forget to ask who we’re becoming.
Forget what everyone else expects.
Forget who you’ve been told you should be.
Forget the version of you that existed five years ago.
Forget the version of you that you’re trying to prove yourself to.
Journal:
If I fully believed that I was worthy, capable, lovable, and enough… how would I live differently?
Then finish these sentences:
I would stop ____________.
I would start ____________.
I would finally give myself permission to ____________.
I would no longer apologize for ____________.
I would make more space for ____________.
The woman I’m becoming needs me to ____________.
And finally:
What is one thing I can do this week that the woman I’m becoming would be proud of?
Write it down.
Then do it.
Because self-love isn’t just something you talk about.
It’s something you practice.
