It’s commonly said that no one can forget their first love. Normally, when you ask someone about their first love, the other person would tell you about a person that they were romantically involved with. And I’m sure that you would think that was a normal answer too. Most of us girls would answer like that.
What’s interesting is that if you were to ask the same question to a highly positive and confident person, then they would tell you that their first love was, is, and will always be themselves. How different of an answer, right? For most women, that’s not the first answer that comes to mind though; but it really is a good one.
Here’s why: when you learn to love yourself first and foremost, then the world is yours. Happiness is yours. Self love is yours. And your dreams and goals follow. And at Miss XOXO, that’s why we want to be here to support you on your self love journey.
So….to get on this train of growing our self love as women, here are 5 ways you can love yourself more!
Learn to say “no”
“No” might be one of the smallest words in the English language, yet it seems very hard for most of us to say when we need to say it.
Think about it? How many times have you been caught in something that you didn’t want to do, just because you didn’t say “no” when you needed to? I know my hand is raised as we speak. Although it sounds so simple, in order to love yourself, you need to start saying ‘no’ more often.
Saying “no” is about valuing yourself, your opinions and your time. It’s the ultimate way to say you value you. So, the next time you are about to second guess yourself, remember to say “no” to anything and anyone who brings you down or is in the way of achieving your goals of focusing on you.
Acknowledge who you are and how far you’ve come.
The goal is to acknowledge who you are! Just you…. and no one else in this moment.
For example, focusing on yourself means letting go of comparing yourself to others. The only competition present should be between you and yourself.
One way to do this is to focus on just how far you’ve come throughout the years. You’re not the same as you were even last year, and when you take time to focus on that, you can come to appreciate who you really are now.
Invest in yourself and even spoil yourself from time to time.
Us girls are so good at giving all of ourselves away; and so much that we often forget to invest in ourselves as much as we invest in others. What we instead need to learn is that investing in yourself lays the foundation of self care and self love. Or think of it like this: when you put money, time and energy towards yourself, it can only pay out in return.
One way to invest in yourself is to develop a personal relationship with yourself. Take yourself out on a “date” and do things that you enjoy. Or develop a new interest or talent. Or write a new discovery about yourself in your journal. Don’t have a journal or want a new one? You can buy one from our shop here: https://heygirlhey.org/product-category/journals-notebooks/
Similarly, don’t shy away from spoiling yourself. It’s okay to out of the way to treat yourself to something nice. You should realize that you deserve the best in the world and no one can provide you with ‘the best’ in every aspect of life but yourself.
Turn your weaknesses into strengths
We all have some area about ourselves that we wish were better. But instead of dwelling on it, the goal is to take those shortcomings and turn them into strengths about yourself.
How can I do this, you ask? Every adjective or way to describe yourself has an opposite description; so, in this case, try identifying your weakness and flip it around. For example, are you sometimes unrealistic? Well that just means you’re more of a visionary than others. Do people call you childish? You’re actually youthful and fun. Do people say you talk too much? Honey, you’re just more expressive than most. The goal is to look at yourself with a new perspective.
Remember….You are your own best friend.
Imagine the care and love you expect from your best friend. You probably can envision someone who is loving, loyal, supportive, truthful, fun, etc. Okay, well use those traits to start giving the same friendship to yourself. Become your own best friend by showing yourself care and love; treat yourself to good things, and learn to have fun all on your own.
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That’s it ladies! You now have 5 amazing tools to love yourself more, so go out there and conquer it. Just remember the big takeaway here is that loving you is the healthiest thing you can ever do for yourself.
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